I saw your post on using a TQFP header to program your ATmega168 chips. I bought the same header from Digikey.
Looking at the bottom of the header, there are two sockets. I assume you have soldered some wires directly to the according solder joints, right? Or have you figured out, which kind of socket is needed?
BTW: I really like the 2 jeenodes I have here by me and the RFM12 lib as well. Keep up the good work!