1) the RFM22 logic is different, and requires a different driver - see also the comments here:
http://news.jeelabs.org/2009/08/26/room-plug-design/#comments
2) you cannot connect the RFM module directly to a servo controller, neither one would know what to do, you need a microprocessor and software in between
3) not on the same radio frequency
4) see http://shop.jeelabs.com/pages/shipping
5) technically, it could, but the RF12 driver software would need to be adjusted, and it may be too much work for one JeeNode to handle two RFM12B's at the same time and do something useful with the data streams
6) only one I know of, is about the same as a JeeNode: http://code.google.com/p/strobit/
7) SPI, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SerialPeripheralInterfaceBus
No, you're not asking too much, but I suspect that you're [i]expecting[/i] too much :)
Sending servo information and especially streaming video back at the same time will require more cpu power, buffer storage, and RF bandwidth than a basic JeeNode can handle. It may work on a single JeeNode if you send only a very small image every few seconds but even that will take some careful design and use of available resources.